I’m constantly hearing about special or wise people, people that are better than the most of us. Let it be scientists, university teachers, modern philosophers, writers, I hear names that seem more important than mine.
And if this wasn’t enough, I even talk with people that think that they are quite something themselves, much different and wiser than the rest of us.
Heck, my experience tells me that generally, nobody is that special. Read More »
Like it or not, individuality in our lives is just a subproduct of relationships. For a normal person (and believe me, all of us are normal persons), there is no “personality” unless there is the mirror that we call “other people’s opinions” on which it reflects. In a few words, you only exist when others exist.
Anyway, let’s leave that indroductory generalization and step into the main subject of this post.
Just because “human relationships” are the one and only important thing in our lives (I said, like it or not), I have strong evidence that “love/erotic relationships” are maybe the MOST important thing in our lives. Ok, I may exaggerate a bit, but you can take a look by yourself and see that love relationships have indeed a massive power on our future personalities, in the course of our lives etc. Read More »
Breaks as in “taking a break”. There are breaks in TV-programs, football matches, sexual intercourse… but here I’m speaking about taking a break in your everyday life.
The river shape – The flow
We may refer to “the flow” most times as “an enhanced way of perceiving” (see Flow on Wikipedia for more) but sometimes it can be a bad situation in your life – See it as a flow that drags you without being able to react. Some people call it routine. To be more precise, when you do something for a long time without major changes in its execution (living for example – yes! living!), you can visualize that certain action taking a “river shape”. You are in the flowing river of actions, on a path that has been forged by routine – You are in a diminished state of awareness. You can’t control a river. Well, you shouldn’t want your life to have the river shape. Read More »
People are egoistic in a way that they come to believe that they can arrange future. They schedule without any disbelief over their predictions. They dream and put their feelings on a calendar. People are stupid; You can’t schedule anything.
You are too small.
And the world is too big. It’s just a matter of variables: You are one variable and your environment is infinite variables. Even if you really have control over your actions – which you don’t -, even then how can you control everything else? Our mind is not made to create a future: Just sit back and enjoy the ride…
…or become angry and dissapointed.
Where do people usually make the mistake of thinking too deep in the future?
- A romantic relationship: You make dreams for years in the future, for marriage and kids but you can’t predict the wonderful person that will show up tommorow and “steal your heart”.
- A friendly relationship: You become so much used to a person’s company that you arrange a future based partially on his/her influence. But you can’t predict that you will be bored of him tomorrow/or that he will die in a car crash.
- A day’s planning: You say that you will go for dinner at night, but you can’t predict that terrible headache that will make you stay at home
Do you get the point? You never had any control over your life: We are spectators and commentators, maybe even actors, but definitely not directors of our life. Read More »
Everyday, while watching my life unfold, I notice various things: One is the beginning of all relationships.
I mean, there is a first time for meeting anyone: Your friends, your lovers, even your parents.
It’s definite that people are of utmost importance to each other. You probably can’t live alone, except if your are a god or a beast. You need others to BE something, you need others to WANT something, you need others to HAVE something. Of course, the overhuman is the one that will surpass all of these limitation, but that’s another subject to open.
So, we can say that:
- There is always a first-time meeting for everyone.
- Other people are the basis of our lives.
But it’s not only the amount of people that matters. People are different from each other: You can name them one by one, each one of them having a different effect in YOUR life. Read More »