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(…) Keep Ithaka always in your mind.
Arriving there is what you are destined for.
But do not hurry the journey at all.
Better if it lasts for years,
so you are old by the time you reach the island,
wealthy with all you have gained on the way,
not expecting Ithaka to make you rich.

Ithaka gave you the marvelous journey.
Without her you would not have set out.
She has nothing left to give you now.

And if you find her poor, Ithaka wonโ€™t have fooled you.
Wise as you will have become, so full of experience,
you will have understood by then what these Ithakas mean.

C. P. Cavafy – Ithaka

Let me use a personal experience for example.

This year’s January I met a woman. I really fell in love with her immediately. I must also say that I was quite a lucky person: everything went fine in a way that it was scary – I was always in the right place at the right time. Anyway, we came close to each other in a friendly way in a span of three months. One day, when she wasn’t expecting it, I confessed to her: “I’m in love with you”. Needless to say, this changed many things such as the way we talked to each other but still I was seeing no progress at becoming a couple. In May, I could count 5 months since I met her: We had some great moments together, I learned many things, I got to know a great person – but there was no way that we would be a couple. I quite ended this.

It’s the road that matters…

Do you think that I feel bad about things not resulting as I wanted them to? Well, at some moments I felt bad – but now I can only be happy about the road that we walked together with that person. It was a path full of experiences that will make me much wiser in the future. What would be different if we got to be a couple?: Well, we would kiss each other, have sex and then, after some months, break up. You see, the whole interesting part is when you meet someone. I had fun, believe me! ๐Ÿ™‚

Reader says to after you wake up author: “Man! You are lying to yourself!”.

Dear reader. I know that I didn’t win this battle. I know that I didn’t experience the other half of the relationship. But, why am I lying to myself? Failing at something may not seem like failing from another point of view.

Let me be a little more intriguing. Imagine that just after writing this post I meet some other great woman that is much greater than the previous one (It actually happened to me the previous days ๐Ÿ™‚ ). This time, I know how to act better and achieve my goal: I establish a true erotic relationship. If things went differently for me with the first woman, I would have missed something else that would be better. And who knows where things would lead to?

I know that this could be again seen as lying to myself, but what is “lie” and “truth” when you are talking about possibilities.

The way to Ithaka.

Concentrate on the road itself, that’s the right thing to do. It’s not the destination that will make you wise but the whole pack of experiences that you gain walking towards your finale. The destination is nothing more that the end of a journey and the beginning of a new one.

Don’t feel bad about not always achieving your goals. Trying to achieve something is really providing you with valuable experience.

How to give a new meaning to your everyday life?

Think like a stupid person that lies to himself: That is possibilities!

I will just say one thing: Think of a great moment in your life. Now, we accept that everything that happens at a certain moment in one’s life is the result of every micro-decision and action that he/she made in the past. Now, find some bad moments and situations in the time before the great moment. What does this tell us? Every good thing in your life is the result of both good and bad moments in the past. Every “road of life” is so unique that without all those bad moments you wouldn’t have reached the greatest ones.

What should we learn?

Always focus on the way to YOUR Ithaka and don’t forget that Ithakas change. Also, love all your moments: Good or bad. It’s both that will bring you to your destination.

Cavafy’s Ithaka can be found here: http://www.cavafy.com/poems/content.asp?id=74&cat=1

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