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Breaks as in “taking a break”. There are breaks in TV-programs, football matches, sexual intercourse… but here I’m speaking about taking a break in your everyday life.

The river shape – The flow

We may refer to “the flow” most times as “an enhanced way of perceiving” (see Flow on Wikipedia for more) but sometimes it can be a bad situation in your life – See it as a flow that drags you without being able to react. Some people call it routine. To be more precise, when you do something for a long time without major changes in its execution (living for example – yes! living!), you can visualize that certain action taking a “river shape”. You are in the flowing river of actions, on a path that has been forged by routine – You are in a diminished state of awareness. You can’t control a river. Well, you shouldn’t want your life to have the river shape. Read More »


Yesterday, I was in the car going back home. I wasn’t the one driving so I was staring outside the window, the trees, the lights, the road itself. We were going fast – the road seemed like a smooth grey surface, like a calm grey liquid. After a while we slowed down, I was still looking at the road – I was amazed to notice that this lengthy grey road consisted of millions of little grey pieces of rock. I could see them one by one – such detail.

Speed blurs – details are easily lost.

We are living our lives fast. Well, of course this doesn’t happen literally – let me explain. When you drive slowly, you set your eyes to look close, you focus just where you will be in the next second. When you drive fast, in a highway, you look far away, you focus in the distance.

Life works in a same way – When you focus on the far future you make life work itself fast. And there is a big downfall to looking in the future: Since you can’t look in two different places at the same time, you only look in the future and since future does not exist, well, I’m sorry to say but you are not living your life.

Forget the future.

Sit down for a while and look clearly at what the future is: Your wishes! The future does not exist and will never exist – It’s pure air. Your only life is present: even if you are 10 or 50 years old, you were and will always be living your present. I shouldn’t be saying all this: It’s common sense to me but I don’t see many people noticing it.

Just live the moment (Oh, how much do I hate cliches).

For one time in your life do something that will have a direct effect in the present. Example? Are you saving all of your money for the future? You are so funny – perhaps you haven’t heard that we only exist in present: Go out and spent some of your money for fun – Yeah, it’s worth it!

How to get rid of the speed-blur effect.

Slow down. A car that drives fast will reach its destination too soon – that’s not exactly good for a human’s life, if you know what I mean. 🙂

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The YOU is a variable. You can affect your close environment, what’s around you. But, the whole everyday life, not to mention the whole universe, has unlimited variables. What does this mean? Statistically, even if you try at your best to do something (I’m talking practical now – about everyday life), your variable is so little against all the things that you can’t take account of that in the end you almost have no power at all.

You can’t go against the flow and be happy.

Did you ever see any piece of wood on the river to be trying to go against the flow? No. It doesn’t have to. The more you try to get a hold of everyday situations, the more unhappy you become: That way, you can’t ever be happy because things will never go your way.

Watch the movie.

Things not going your way doesn’t mean that things will not be great for you. Good things happen unexpectedly. A nice movie is full of surprises. Treat your life like a movie: Sit back and enjoy – You will always know when you have to act.

All the things are tied together. You are the center of the world.

Well, someone could say: “Hey, you egoist! How can you be the center of the world?”. I would not answer to him, because I don’t want to persuade anyone about anything. But, for the purpose of the blog let me say this. People, the only world that you know is the reality that YOU grasp. If it weren’t for your existence no world would be there. Everything exists as long as YOU exist. Disagree? Try to prove me wrong. Did the world exist before you existed? It’s a deep question: Think about it seriously.

Being the center of the world is relaxing?

Yes! It’s not a responsibility – It’s a privilege. Everything else has a responsibility – not you. Anyway, all these things don’t matter. Forget what I said.

Just go with the flow, be careless, be happy. It’s so simple. 🙂


Come on! I said it’s simple. The next time that you feel something like anxiousness, unhappiness or dissatisfaction do the following thing: Take a toilet paper, write the situation that makes you unhappy on it, take a dump and wipe your ass with that piece of paper. You will instantly have a dramatization of the true value of that situation. 🙂

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