The unimportance and the importance of people.

Everyday, while watching my life unfold, I notice various things: One is the beginning of all relationships.

I mean, there is a first time for meeting anyone: Your friends, your lovers, even your parents.

It’s definite that people are of utmost importance to each other. You probably can’t live alone, except if your are a god or a beast. You need others to BE something, you need others to WANT something, you need others to HAVE something. Of course, the overhuman is the one that will surpass all of these limitation, but that’s another subject to open.

So, we can say that:

1. There is always a first-time meeting for everyone.
2. Other people are the basis of our lives.

But it’s not only the amount of people that matters. People are different from each other: You can name them one by one, each one of them having a different effect in YOUR life.

Why you shouldn’t want to change other people.

You may become frustrated by someone. Someone might have an opinion different than yours. Someone might react to things differently than you. A common person would try to change him, to talk to him and persuade him that he is wrong. Well, don’t try to change anybody: Better change yourself!

It’s you that has the problem.

Problems are a matter of perception: Something is a problem only when you consider it to be a problem. It a fact that people cannot change easily and even if they change they are the ones to decide. Try to change someone and the only thing that you will achieve is anger and fail :).

We only have power over ourselves.

You can’t change the other, but you can definitely change yourself. Try changing the way that you react to the things that annoy you. Try to be more relaxed in your relationships. Erase the problems by overlooking them: Everything becomes great once again.

Don’t expect anything from anyone!

Why do you have problems with people anyway? That’s because you expect too much from them. You expect all your friends to be perfect at everything, to never do something that would annoy you. Don’t! People don’t tend to follow your personal standards. Enjoy your relationships with original people: Isn’t it more interesting than being able to predict everything. Life is a learning ground anyway.

One more reason why you shouldn’t want to change anyone.

Well, the people that are by your side change from time to time. Someone that is your friend today may no still be tomorrow. So, in the end, why to spend your time and effort to forge a personality that will eventually leave you? There are only a few people in our lives that deserve our full attention and all of them are probably the thing we call “family”. All the others, let them be themselves. They are temporary, be sure of it.